Chipping Away at Defects of Character - Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

MajestyJo · 04-24-2015, 06:39 PM

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Chipping away at my defects of character was introduced to me ten years ago. I had my own set of poker chips with defects written on them front and back, sent to me by Mistyeve. I gave mine to a sponsee, and what I try to do, is just be honest as to what defect I need to work on in today. As I said to my sponsor one day, "I need to talk about Step 6. My defects of character were glaringly apparent today."

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This list of character defects is what I have on my set of poker chips. The idea Father John Doe (First Alcoholic Priest in AA) had
was to draw a chip every day and work and be aware ot that particular character defect just for that day. I try not to offend
my chip of the day and over a period of time these defects have improved gradually. It works if ya work it!!! Good Luck!!!---Mistyeve

PATIENCE IMPATIENCE
LOVE HATE
WILLING STUBBORN
PROCRASTINATE DO IT!
SELF PITY SELF FORGETFUL
HONEST DISHONEST
LOYAL DISLOYAL
RESPONSIBLE IRRESPONSIBLE
ACCEPTANCE DEFIANCE
EQUALITY PREJUDICE
FEAR FAITH
ACTIVE LAZY
PRAISE CRITICIZE
RELAXED DEFENSIVE
PRIDE HUMILITY
SERENITY CHAOTIC
GOD CENTERED SELF CENTERED
GENEROUSITY GREED
CONTENT JEALOUS
ANGER SELF CONTROL
MORAL IMMORAL
TRUST SUSPICIOUS
TOLERANCE INTOLERANCE
ORGANIZED DISORGANIZED
DISCIPLINED UNDISCIPLINED
RUDE POLITE
GRATEFUL UNGRATEFUL
HUMOR HUMORLESS

Taken from Al-Anon's Blueprint to Progress - Fourth Step Inventory

Aware of others/Self-centered

Helpful to others/Self-indulgent

Generous/Selfish

Thoughtful/Self-pitying

Open-minded, gracious/Smug, stubborn

Perceptive/Judgmental

Respectful/Disrespectful

Patient/Impatient

Tolerant/Intolerant

Realistic/Unrealistic

Reasonable/Unreasonable

Assertive/Submissive

Cooperative/Domineering

Outgoing/Withdrawn

Forgiving/Resentful

Trusting/Suspicious

Trustworthy/Prone to gossip

Content/Envious

Agreeable/Disagreeable

Cheerful/Discourteous

Kind/Unkind

Loving,caring/Indifferent

Discreet/Lacking discretion

Stable/Panicky, violent

Consistent/Inconsistent

Sincere/Insincere

Honest/Dishonest

Willing to admit faults/Self-righteous

Humble/Arrogant

Calm/Worrisome

Relaxed/Tense

Confident, having faith/Fearful, apprehensive

Hopeful/Despondent

Optimistic/Pessimistic

Living for today/Living in the past, worrying about the future

Industrious/Lazy

Prompt/Procrastinating

Purposeful/Aimless

Responsible/Irresponsible

Using talents and abilities/Disinterested in self

Thankful/Ungrateful

Willing to continue to seek emotional and spiritual balance/Smug, complacent

I hope to post daily a defect of character that I need to work on in today.

MajestyJo · 04-24-2015, 06:48 PM

Just for today, I will let go and let God. I can't make conditions and keep strings attached, I have to let go of the control and walk in faith and trust in my God.

MajestyJo · 04-25-2015, 08:22 PM

Just for today, I will continue to pray to let go of a resentment that keeps nagging at me. It hasn't grown, but it hasn't gotten gotten too much smaller either.

MajestyJo · 04-26-2015, 04:36 PM

Just for today, continued prayers to let go of my resentment, I couldn't sleep when I wanted to last night.

MajestyJo · 04-27-2015, 10:06 PM

Just for today, I pray for my discipline in my life. I pray to be more open to what is good for me, than the goodies I want in my life.

MajestyJo · 04-29-2015, 12:48 AM

Just for today, I will stay in today. I will replace fear with faith. Yesterday has gone. I can't change it, I can learn from it. My fears of yesterday, allow me to walk in faith today, and trust my God to lead me one day at a time into a better tomorrow.

MajestyJo · 04-29-2015, 06:42 PM

Just for today, I will trust more and worry less. I will let go and let God.

MajestyJo · 04-30-2015, 09:37 PM

Just for today, I will be a team player. I am so grateful for this group it has been a big part of my recovery for many years. When I can't be here, something is missing and I have a void in my life. I can't get out to meeting very often. Very few are wheel chair accessible. You are my home group.

MajestyJo · 05-01-2015, 06:17 PM

Just for today, I will nurture myself and get my needs met. I will practice self care. I can't give away what I don't have.

MajestyJo · 05-02-2015, 07:15 PM

Just for today, I pray for acceptance and ask for help with lowering the expectations I place on myself.

MajestyJo · 05-04-2015, 11:13 PM

Just for today, I continue to pray and work on my lack of acceptance and what is in the moment. Because of it, I have been stuck and ended up rescheduling my doctor's appointment today.

MajestyJo · 05-05-2015, 05:15 PM

Just for today, I will be open to receive. I will give myself permission to take risks and allow myself to become vulnerable.

MajestyJo · 05-06-2015, 01:19 PM

Just for today, I will be open minded to other people's ideas and concepts. I will be pray for clarity, awareness, and an open mind. I pray for the removal of all blocks to be removed from me and anything that is detrimental to my mental, emotional, and spiritual growth be taken from me that I may grow in Spiritual awareness and enter into new Spiritual experiences.

MajestyJo · 05-07-2015, 07:32 PM

Just for today, I will loving and caring. Being indifferent and critical of another can be a form of abuse, to yourself and to others.

MajestyJo · 05-08-2015, 09:13 PM

Just for today, I will humbly ask for help. The weather has made my day unmanageable, and have had difficulty thinking through my pain, concentrating, sleeping, and have done the do things, but the pain hasn't gone away. I don't want to take a pill. I have taken what has been prescribed for today, used cold packs, my bean bath, and come on line to post to help detach from the pain. I have applied the Voltaren twice, so I just have to let go and let God. I am going off the computer when I do the prayer for the today and do a meditation and massage and leave the results up to my God.

04-24-2015, 06:48 PM	#2
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will let go and let God. I can't make conditions and keep strings attached, I have to let go of the control and walk in faith and trust in my God. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

04-25-2015, 08:22 PM	#3
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will continue to pray to let go of a resentment that keeps nagging at me. It hasn't grown, but it hasn't gotten gotten too much smaller either. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

04-26-2015, 04:36 PM	#4
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, continued prayers to let go of my resentment, I couldn't sleep when I wanted to last night. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

04-27-2015, 10:06 PM	#5
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I pray for my discipline in my life. I pray to be more open to what is good for me, than the goodies I want in my life. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

04-29-2015, 12:48 AM	#6
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will stay in today. I will replace fear with faith. Yesterday has gone. I can't change it, I can learn from it. My fears of yesterday, allow me to walk in faith today, and trust my God to lead me one day at a time into a better tomorrow. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

04-29-2015, 06:42 PM	#7
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will trust more and worry less. I will let go and let God. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

04-30-2015, 09:37 PM	#8
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will be a team player. I am so grateful for this group it has been a big part of my recovery for many years. When I can't be here, something is missing and I have a void in my life. I can't get out to meeting very often. Very few are wheel chair accessible. You are my home group. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

05-01-2015, 06:17 PM	#9
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will nurture myself and get my needs met. I will practice self care. I can't give away what I don't have. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

05-04-2015, 11:13 PM	#11
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I continue to pray and work on my lack of acceptance and what is in the moment. Because of it, I have been stuck and ended up rescheduling my doctor's appointment today. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

05-05-2015, 05:15 PM	#12
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will be open to receive. I will give myself permission to take risks and allow myself to become vulnerable. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

05-06-2015, 01:19 PM	#13
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will be open minded to other people's ideas and concepts. I will be pray for clarity, awareness, and an open mind. I pray for the removal of all blocks to be removed from me and anything that is detrimental to my mental, emotional, and spiritual growth be taken from me that I may grow in Spiritual awareness and enter into new Spiritual experiences. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

05-07-2015, 07:32 PM	#14
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will loving and caring. Being indifferent and critical of another can be a form of abuse, to yourself and to others. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

05-08-2015, 09:13 PM	#15
MajestyJo Super Moderator Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: Hamilton, ON Posts: 25,078	Just for today, I will humbly ask for help. The weather has made my day unmanageable, and have had difficulty thinking through my pain, concentrating, sleeping, and have done the do things, but the pain hasn't gone away. I don't want to take a pill. I have taken what has been prescribed for today, used cold packs, my bean bath, and come on line to post to help detach from the pain. I have applied the Voltaren twice, so I just have to let go and let God. I am going off the computer when I do the prayer for the today and do a meditation and massage and leave the results up to my God. __________________ Love always, Jo I share because I care.

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