We do knowingly participate in our own demise, but it's not reasonable to blame ourselves. Confusion and lack of understanding about what's happening to us, by us and those around us leads us not liking ourselves, or wanting to be who we are. This is commonly where we develop that anger we all have towards ourselves. It's using us against ourselves. It's because of this battle that's going on within all of us, that we're led to being able to do ourselves in. Without the use of help from outside of us, we don't stand a chance, it's very thorough in doing what it does, and that is having us destroy ourselves. If we want to stop this we can, but if we don't, now that is on us.