Why we all get here in recovery is different for all of us who are in recovery and there's no need for any of us to look at all of these different ways trying to see what we all have in common with each other because we won't find one. The one thing that we will find that all of us have in common with each other is all of us being self centered. Though none of us can usually see this or if we do see anything wrong with us being that way. What we've all learned before any of us got to recovery is how very painful it is for all of us to be self centered even when we're not aware of the fact that we're being that way. We'll all want to get rid of us being self centered after we get here in recovery. Some of us will able to, but not all of us will, and the pain will continue that comes from being that way and now be made worse because we know we're causing this for ourselves by us still choosing to be that way. The program of recovery helps all of us to stop being self centered and as long as we choose to do the things that it says for us do to it will, and when we all have done this we'll all be choosing to stop the pain that comes from being the way we are.