So little of what we can control is within us, what's left is something else that none of us should ever try to control, but knowing this alone, never stops any of us from trying, like we all do, to have control over something that none of us were ever meant to have control over. We all get way in over our heads when we do this, but that's okay if we do, because this is what teaches all of us not to do this, and what keeps all of us from wanting to do this, and even more importantly for all of us is this is what allows for all of us to want to begin to and become willing to work on ourselves, so we all can learn how to be in control of ourselves, which is something that all of us thought we had no control over, on the contrary this is the only thing that we'll ever be able to have control over, ourselves and nothing else. Recovery shows all of us how we all can do this, and it's not like we all thought it was, by us being in control of everything else because that's never worked for any of us, and eventually we all find this out.