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11-30-2013, 08:07 PM | #1 |
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I Will Try I will Try no matter How hard I have to. I will Try even if Life crushes me down. I will not Give up & Try N Try to rise high. I will Try to Fly & Touch the Sky, even if the world says U don't have the wings & you cant fly. I will Try to win, even if am Losing. I will Try to have Hope, even if there is None. I will Try always to Smile, even if I m Crying. I will Try to Sing, even if my Voice is dying. I will Try to be Positive , even if I m surrounded in Negatives. I will Try to reach for the Heaven, even if I m in Hell. I will Try to Love , even if I have a Broken Heart. Even if my Fate defies me and my Luck betrays, In the darkest days with no Sunrays, I will Try and do nothing else till I've achieved my dreams & won't give up. As winner I wish to live , who fights till the last breath... And I will Try to Live even If I'm about to Die. - unknown From my site The Angel of Health
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"Words of Wisdom..."
1. No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission. 2. Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be. 3. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently. 4. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have. 5. Success stops when you do. 6. When your ship comes in.... make sure you are willing to unload it. 7. You will never "have it all together." 8. Life is a journey...not a destination. Enjoy the trip! 9. The biggest lie on the planet: "When I get what I want I will be happy." 10. The best way to escape your problem is to solve it. 11. I've learned that ultimately , 'takers' lose and 'givers' win. 12. Life's precious moments don't have value, unless they are shared. 13. If you don't start, it's certain you won't arrive. 14. We often fear the thing we want the most. 15. Everyone hears what you say. Friends listen to what you have to say. Best friends listen to what you don't say! 16. Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints. 17. Look for opportunities...not guarantees. 18. Life is what's coming....not what was. 19. Success is getting up one more time. 20. Now is the most interesting time of all. 21. When things go wrong.....don't go with them. 22. Sometimes the majority only means that all the fools are on the same side. 23. God can mend all broken hearts. You just have to give him all the pieces. 24. A person who asks a question might be a fool for five minutes, but a person who doesn't ask, is a fool forever... 25. A best friend is like a four leaf clover... hard to find, and lucky to have. 26. A friend is someone who reaches for your hand but touches your heart. 27. A coincidence is when God performs a miracle, and decides to remain anonymous. 28. I don't have to attend every argument I'm invited to. 29. Your worst days are never so bad that you are beyond the reach of God's grace... and your best days are never so good that you are beyond the need of God's grace. 30. Our eyes are placed in front because it is more important to look ahead than to look back.
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11-30-2013, 08:11 PM | #3 |
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My favorite slogan is "Let it begin with me."
It reminds me that my recoveryis about me and not about the other person. No matter what someone says or does, it is about me, my thoughts and my actions. The slogan that has probably helped me the most and has helped me to change my old habits and behaviors is "Hesitate and Meditate." Stop before I think and react. With it goes the slogan "Listen to Learn, Learn to Listen." It was always about me and what I needed. I had to learn to stop and listent to others and to what they had to say. Sometimes the best way you can help somone is to just listen to them. But for the Grace of God - I would not be here. My name in real life means God's Gracious Gift. I did not think it was so for many years. I used and abused myself and allowed others to do so. I had to come to realize that I was loved, that this second chance at life was given to me, it was up to me to give back to others, the special gift that I had been given. We can`t compare this Christmas with Christmas past if we stay clean and sober. We have a Higher Power, hopefully new friends and acquaintances. We can go to meetings and connect with others, we are no longer alone.
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11-30-2013, 08:14 PM | #4 |
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Noah's Ark Everything I need to know, I learned from Noah's Ark .
ONE: Don't miss the boat. TWO: Remember that we are all in the same boat! THREE: Plan ahead. It wasn't raining when Noah built the Ark. FOUR: Stay fit. When you're 60 years old, someone may ask you to do something really big. FIVE: Don't listen to critics; just get on with the job that needs to be done. SIX: Build your future on high ground. SEVEN: For safety's sake, travel in pairs. EIGHT: Speed isn't always an advantage.. The snails were on board with the cheetahs. NINE: When you're stressed, float awhile. TEN: Remember, the Ark was built by amateurs; the Titanic by professionals. ELEVEN: No matter the storm, when you are with God, there's always a rainbow waiting. My instructions were to send this to the people that I wanted God to bless and I picked you. Please pass this on to people you want to be blessed. (Give it!! Don't just get it.) Most people walk in and out of your life.......but FRIENDS leave footprints in your heart
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Have seen this many times but I am always blessed when I re-read it, original source unknown:
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11-30-2013, 08:29 PM | #6 |
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My favorite slogan is "Let it begin with me."
It reminds me that my recovery is about me and not about the other person. No matter what someone says or does, it is about me, my thoughts and my actions. The slogan that has probably helped me the most and is "Hesitate and Meditate." Stop before I think and react. has helped me to change my old habits and behaviours With it goes the slogan "Listen to Learn, Learn to Listen." It was always about me and what I needed. I had to learn to stop and listen to others and to what they had to say. Sometimes the best way you can help someone is to just listen to them. But for the Grace of God - I would not be here. My name in real life means God's Gracious Gift. I did not think it was so for many years. I used and abused myself and allowed others to do so. I had to come to realize that I was loved, that this second chance at life was given to me, it was up to me to give back to others, the special gift that I had been given. A slogan that I have problems with is "Easy Does It...but do it!" I seem to always go gung-ho at anything I do (except dishes), and I put all my energy into it, and then after go, go, going, I crash and go boom. Today I took the bus downtown and back. I didn't do a lot more than what I needed to do and didn't even check out the whole market, only went to where I needed to go. I was grateful that the elevator was working and I didn't have to take the ramp. Yet for all of that, I came home and just had to go and have a lay down. My son called and woke me up, tried to stay up but just couldn't. Today I did after having a reasonable night sleep. I went the other day with just a couple of hours sleep and yet I had the same results. So it is easy does it, do what you need to do when you need to do it! Many times, I would go so easy, I wouldn't get it done! I have never been good at doing things a little at a time. I don't even like to put a book down after I start reading it. "If it ain't broke, don't fix it!" I was broke and needed fixin' and my God and I are still working on it! You can learn two things at a meeting. How to work your program and how NOT to work your program! Just because someone is in the rooms of recovery doesn't mean have it all together. A long-timer can hurt just as much as a newcomer. This is a 'One Day At A Time' program. There are many slogans, I always looked at them as mini-steps. There are many of them besides the original one from AA and many have been added to the list by alcoholics and addicts. Live and let live. But for the grace of God... Keep It Simple Let go and let God One day at a time First Things First Think, Think, Think Easy Does It...but do it! Just For Today Use it or lose it Utilize NOT criticize Each day is a new beginning and the list goes on and on...
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There was very little stop before you speak. I would hear things and perceive them as derogatory and hurtful, and would either want to pay you back or would burst out in tears and role play to the hilt. All in response to "It is your fault, look at what you made me do, if you hadn't done that, I wouldn't have...." I took everything personal. I used my thoughts to beat myself up royally and I used your words as I perceived them to be, which were never validated, to put myself down, or I would hit back and put you down to make me feel better. An ugly world, an unkind place, and I am glad I don't have to go there any more. I don't have to buy into other people's game and I don't have to role play and be someone I am not. I had to heal those thoughts. I had to change the thinking. I had to allow myself to heal and forgive myself. Often it was my disease acting out. Many times it was all I knew and what I heard growing up and didn't know my thoughts were outdated. I had to learn to allow others to have their thoughts. I just had to learn not to buy into them and give them power over me. It was important to not give up my own power. Empowerment that I didn't know I had. ave found over the years that I have learned to hesitate and meditate before I speak. That is a real departure from the old me, even in recovery, I wanted to tell people, who it should be done! For me to walk away and not react was and is a big step for me. I still may come back and share my own experience, strength, and hope. It just won't be done with resentment and anger. I have always been a person who has believed in standing up for what she believes in. For too many years, mum was the word and it all festered inside, only to explode in anger and hate. I am a firm believer in it isn't about what you say, it is about how you say it. When you let go of the anger and always having to be right, things can be stated in truth. Agreeing to disagree was a wonderful tool in recovery. Put your thoughts, dreams, and ideas out to the Universe and see what you get back.
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Today's Reminder - November 21, 2010
In handling my difficulties, what's important isn't how much time I have in Al-Anon but how willing I am in implement the tools of recovery. While Al-Anon doesn't grant immunity from problems, it does offer a healthy way to deal with them. "Troubles are often the tools by which God fashions us for better things." H. W. Beecher From Courage to Change (Al-Anon) Quote:
Even in today, after several 24 hours of recovery, I still need to pick up the phone and call my sponsor. The special person that allows me to share and be myself. What I needed to recognize was that things are different in today. Today I take my Higher Power with me into situations and I no longer walk with fear, I don't have to figure things out by myself. I am granted freedom of choice. The greatest choice is to change my mind and choose again.
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But if any of you lacketh wisdom, let him ask of God, who giveth to all liberally and unbraideth not; and it shall be given him. But let him ask in faith, nothing doubting; for he that doubteth is like the surge of the sea driven by the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive anything of the Lord; a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.
- James I: 5-8 The only way to find true help and support is to take things to my Higher Power. Turn things over and leave them there, walk in faith. Quote:
I love the acronym: F.E.A.R. = False Evidence Appearing Real
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Acceptance for me is the key to recovery. If I can't accept my disease, I will surely relapse. If I can't accept my dis-ease, I will continually look outside of myself to make me feel better instead of going within and accepting what I find there, in the moment.
Acceptance for me is always about in the moment, in today. Accepting what is, knowing it is subject to change. I had someone tell me that acceptance had no part of recovery because it wasn't mentioned in the first 164 pages of the Big Book. To me this is total HOG WASH! For me, acceptance is a necessary attitude I must find in order to take Step One - 100%. Acceptance is one of the principles of the First Step. It is also part of the grieving process. So whenever we go through change, which is a grieving process, we need to find that acceptance. So much of what is in today is a result of choices made. I need to accept that what I put out, I get back, unfortunately, sometimes it is 10 fold. Which is good if I make a good choice but not so good when I don't make healthy ones. I also need to accept the fact that when I see something negative in someone else, it is a reflection from something within myself. Step Ten keeps me honest. With that honesty, comes acceptance and surrender to a Higher Power. The Serenity Prayer says it all for me. I am so glad I can't wear it out. It is the wisdom to know the difference that takes practice, practice, practice. When I can accept me, I can live in faith instead of fear. Early in recovery, I asked my spiritual advisor what I had to change and his response was "Everything!" This was hard to accept. I thought I was a pretty good person once I no longer had the drugs in my system. I no longer drank so what was my problem? What I had to learn to accept was that the problem was not the pills, the alcohol, or the men in my life, the problem was me? What I had to change was my way of thinking. I had to accept that it had become warped by this dis-ease and I had to find a new way of living. I had to accept that I could no longer look out of myself for people, places and things to make me feel better. I had to go within and I had to connect with a Higher Power. I had to accept a Higher Power. It meant I had to accept a God as I saw Him, this God that I had been so angry with. This God who I thought all my life was going to never accept me because I had done all the things that the 'church' said I should do. I had to learn to accept the people around me. Accept where they were at and recognize that either they didn't have a program or they did and were not using it, at least not to my way of thinking. But the hardest to accept was me and what I found on that journey inward. When I got honest, I had to learn to surrender it all to my Higher Power and accept what I found there in order to recover. It has been a process. I has taken practice, practice, practice. I had to accept on a daily basis that I can't take this journey alone, that just because I worked on something once before, it will come back again, and hardest of all was to accept was my humanness. The workaholic, the perfectionist, the know-it-all, the caretaker, screaming shrew, the shopaholic, overeater, the codependent, the gambler, and the addict, had to change. I was one of the 'really' sick ones. I had to accept that I am still a work in progress.
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Principles For Better Living
Keep it simple. Stop trying to please everybody. Start pleasing yourself. Cultivate gratitude. Carve out an hour a day for solitude. Don't be afraid of your passion. Cherish your dreams. Express love every day. Keep your house picked up. Don't over schedule. Strive for realistic deadlines. Never make a promise you can't keep. Allow an extra half hour for everything you do. Create quiet surroundings at home and at work. Go to bed at nine o'clock twice a week. Always carry something interesting to read. Breathe -deeply and often. Move -walk, dance, run, find a sport you enjoy. Drink pure spring water. Lots of it. Eat only when you are hungry. It it's not delicious, don't eat it. Be instead of do. Set aside one day a week for rest and renewal. Laugh more often. Luxuriate in your senses. Always opt for comfort. Let Mother Nature nurture. Don't answer the telephone during dinner. Stay away from negative people. Don't squander precious resources: time, creative energy, emotion. Nurture friendships. Approach problems as challenges. Honor your aspirations. Set achievable goals. Surrender expectations. Savor beauty. Create boundaries. Don't worry, be happy. Remember: happiness is a living emotion. Care for your soul. Search for your authentic self until you find him/her. Begin and end each day with prayer, meditation, or reflection. Author Unknown
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An act of overindulging; indulgence in too much; pleasure or consumption taken in excess of what is satisfying or necessary.
Wiktionary Had this thought when I was posting in the OA and realized how much it applies to all addictions. I had no knowledge of the fact that I didn't metabolize alcohol like normal people do. I didn't know that when I had that first drink, it stuck around and was there when I had my second and third and what I got was compounded interest. The first time I drank socially, I went to the Trinidad Club in Toronto and had eight rum and coke. I was happy-go-lucky. Danced down the walkway to my friend's house, walked a straight line and if I remember rightly, I was singing. I was 21 years old. When I came into recovery, I was told that eight drinks wasn't social drinking. That social drinking was only one or two! I had no concept of this. Over the years, it took more and more to bring me up to where and what I thought I need to function. It was my coping tool. It was my best friend, only to become my enemy and my worst nightmare. In the end, my social drinking became, "If you are going to have a drink, so shall I! In fact, most times I didn't wait for you to indulge, I was quite happy to start without you.
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Drugs were my best friend, or so I thought. They helped me to cope with life. Then they became my enemy, I got to a place where I no longer wanted to live. Today I have a life. Just for today I choose not to use people, place and things. Just for today, I choose to utilize the people, place and things that my God puts in my path to show me the way to stay clean.
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