Dr. Twerski's Sober Thought - March

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March 25

Avoid Codependence

When we respond to the pace set by another person, we cannot stop when our warning signals tell us that we are going too far. This is equally true of codependents. If the disease that runs the addict's life also runs you as a codependent, your life can become chaotic. Detachment does not mean you are deserting the addict or severing all relations. It simply means you are avoiding being dragged along. A correct understanding of detachment eliminates this concern. We recognize that the other person has a disease, and we relate to him as long as we set the pace of the relationship.