Today's Thought -May

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May 27

In dealing with other people, remember the three C's: You didn't cause it, you can't control it, and you can't cure it.

~Lorna P.

None of us lives in a vacuum. We all live in relational networks called systems. There are family systems, work systems, and church systems. We are constantly surrounded by and interacting with others. Some of those "others" have problems. Some of those closest to us have problems.

Adult children often display an exaggerated sense of responsibility - as if they’re responsible for those problems getting solved. With this in mind, we set out to "fix" the other. The fact is we didn't cause those problems, nor can we control the problems of another, and we surely can't cure them.

Recovery is an intensely personal matter - for us and for others. They will deal with their problems when they are ready and work as hard as they choose to overcome the problems they face.

Today, I will allow others the dignity of living as they wish to live.

Today's reading is from the book Days of Healing, Days of Joy: Daily Meditations for Adult Children*