Today's Thought - May

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May 11

I spent twenty years before someone told me I could cut my losses.

~Michael K.

If we were thinking about spending a huge amount of money on a big house, you can bet we’d check first to see if the roof leaked or the basement flooded. We tend to be very careful about making major investments—and with good reason. Most of us just can’t afford to make a big mistake. Why, then, do so many of us jump so carelessly into relationships?

Before committing ourselves to a large emotional investment, we can examine the total “package.” We have every right to look very closely at a prospective relationship, to check it out, and to make a clear-eyed determination. Is the big draw that they “need” us? Beware. Is the person free, in fact, to make a relationship? Can the person function as a responsible adult? Is the person as committed to personal growth as we are?

If the relationship is healthy and growth-oriented, we need hesitate no longer. We can enter it knowing our optimism comes from positive, not negative, motives.

Today, I will think about my time and energy as my “capital.” I will ask my Higher Power to help me spend it wisely.

Today's reading is from the book Days of Healing, Days of Joy: Daily Meditations for Adult Children*