Pause For Thought

[MajestyJo]

Being powerless is why I need acceptance, surrender and honesty to take Step One and it is an on going process for me my friend. I am just happy that people come by. It is my goal to make sure there is something here for them to read. Not just my two cents, my perception of a topic, but words of wisdom and hence one of my reasons for wanting to post cut and paste. I am not a guru and I have not come to the understanding that those of us who post here are either. I tried stopping playing God with my life and that of others a long time ago. She probably noticed that it hasn't changed much and that the same complaint that made her make the decision to leave is still alive and well on the site. I really miss her and her input into the site. Perhaps she will come back again, at least she signed in and let us know she was here and not just come visit.

I am not powerless over changing myself. I prefer to think of it as personal empowerment. I need the willingness to surrender, ask for help, and follow up the thought with action. Thought alone never got me any where.

My son considers me wrong period! I have to chuckle when he says things like: "You didn't teach me to cook mom, I just watched you." He won't let me in the kitchen when he is concocting. If I go in and give my two cents he leaves.

He is just not open to hearing anything especially anything about recovery.

I have cut back on what I add to the site and just try to respond and share with topics posted like ABCs, Chips, HAGD, and a share by another member.

It was good to see a few members sign in. It is good to see visitors. People coming by and not participating has been a long time issue here. I think some people don't feel comfortable and think their posts have to be just so, they don't know how to add pictures, they don't have the words to say what they want to say, some don't know how to navigate the board, and the list goes on.

I would like to encourage everyone, there is no right way or wrong way to share. Whether your words are many or few, it is nice to know that you are here and identify with what is posted here. We would like your likes and dislikes. What do you want to read when you visit us. We share because we care. Please keep coming.

Don't like think of myself as the power. I am powerless, except through my Higher Power. Only through my God, and this program was I able to change, not of myself.

It took acceptance of the fact that I had a problem. Acceptance that the program would work for me, and acceptance of the fact that I needed to work it one day at a time.

Acceptance is the key. Yet I can still fight it in today, even though I have been in recovery for several 24 hours. When I do, I stay stuck. I know the solution, and I often have to pray for the willingness to be willing to be willing.

If I am frustrated, it is because I am not accepting and I have put expectations on myself or projected them onto someone else. Things aren't happening in my time and I am back trying to play 'god' with my life or that of someone else's. There are many things, lack of patience, intolerance, and a lot of other defects of character that can get in the way, which need a time out and a prayer to before they become an action instead of a thought.

From a post on another site in 2009 and 2015.

No one can make me angry if I don't allow them to. These are words I said to a friend this morning.